Disturbed...

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how is it that i call myself 'wild, the life of the party, loud,' and you know there is just this one thing that has forever been a hurdle to me and that is making friends in church. I have been brought up in a christian home, taught by my parents the ways of the Lord and how spiritually healthy it is to go to church, and trust me, just like any other child i used to go to church after a fight; after a struggle to leave bed and with a very straight face you'd walk to church consoling yourself on how it will be over soon and maybe by thinking about the games that you will play and what have you always got you by.. but one thing never passed me; the importance of going to church. Funny enough, when i was far away from home and had no one to monitor or tell me to wake up and go to church. i would just do it; mind you even when i went out practically the whole night i just used to drag myself to church somehow; So kudos! my parents i did learn a fact to go by.

Anyway so the point is, now i am all grown, mature, i know what is right and wrong, i try and attend church every so often. I even try to chip in an attendance in the middle of the week only to try and nourish the spiritual side of me that has been lacking for the better part of my life.; so now that i have acquainted myself with the idea that every Sunday i have to go to church and all there is this one thing that i can't seem to do and that is make any friends in church; i don't know whether its the attitude that i associate the church with. I see people engaging in some serious talk after church while i just walk straight home because am done unless my relatives want to hang around for a while, the people i know who are not the leaders up front are maybe my mother's friends whom we're introduced once in a while....
This discussion has been sparked by a group of young men and women that i just passed at some meeting point; seemed like they were going for an evening or a retreat; and since i am turning a new leaf, i am so lonely because everyone in my phone book might be engaged for the evening or drinking or going out.

why can't i just seem to make my own friends in church???


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